Oh boy. What do I do about THIS?
Aug. 9th, 2008 05:38 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I just found out that one of the chatters (a younger bi man) from the GLBT chatroom has a crush on me.
The problem is, I find him attractive too. He's bright and funny and our senses of humor run in similar channels. He sent me pictures of himself a while back, and I even think he's cute.
But I get the impression from what he said that he wants a relationship, not just something like friends with privileges, and I'm not sure I've got that to offer. I'd have to talk to Cliff about bringing someone else into our relationship. We're not opposed to a polyamorous relationship. In fact, he's talked about wanting another woman permanently in our relationship, so I'd have a woman lover for when I want that, and because he'd enjoy having a F/F/M threesome. He's not as enthused about M/M/F, although he's not opposed to it either.
But Cliff will always come first with me, as far as romantic/sexual love is concerned. (My daughter is at the head of the list for coming first with me period.) And I wonder if I can offer this young man a fair shake when he'd always be in second place.
But he's so smart and funny and sweet. I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't want to toy with him either. I wonder what the hell I can do; what can I offer him that won't hurt him?
The problem is, I find him attractive too. He's bright and funny and our senses of humor run in similar channels. He sent me pictures of himself a while back, and I even think he's cute.
But I get the impression from what he said that he wants a relationship, not just something like friends with privileges, and I'm not sure I've got that to offer. I'd have to talk to Cliff about bringing someone else into our relationship. We're not opposed to a polyamorous relationship. In fact, he's talked about wanting another woman permanently in our relationship, so I'd have a woman lover for when I want that, and because he'd enjoy having a F/F/M threesome. He's not as enthused about M/M/F, although he's not opposed to it either.
But Cliff will always come first with me, as far as romantic/sexual love is concerned. (My daughter is at the head of the list for coming first with me period.) And I wonder if I can offer this young man a fair shake when he'd always be in second place.
But he's so smart and funny and sweet. I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't want to toy with him either. I wonder what the hell I can do; what can I offer him that won't hurt him?
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Date: 2008-08-10 05:04 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-08-10 05:09 am (UTC)I've been obsessively checking my email waiting for a reply from him, because I really do like him and find him quite attractive, and I think he'd get along with Cliff quite well too.