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[azdesertrose]

I saw my therapist on Tuesday and she wants me to do some journaling so here goes.

She wanted me to come up with a dream father, a perfect dad, since I didn't exactly have one.

What would a perfect dad be?

Well, not abusive is a given. He'd be patient and loving, stern when he had to be (you have to have some discipline in there somewhere), he'd be funny and fun to be around, he wouldn't take himself or me too seriously but just seriously enough. He'd be tall and handsome in that older way, and give good hugs. He'd understand that sometimes girls just need to cry. He'd be willing to teach, patient when you had trouble learning something, and he'd teach you to ride a bicycle, and to drive and care for a car, and all sorts of other things. He'd be respectful of your needs and dreams and he'd help you pursue your dreams.

I can't think of anything else right now. I'll try to update again later.

Comments

[acfernandez.livejournal.com]

That's a wonderful beginning for a good father. I like the part where there is discipline without abuse. That shows balance and reality in your imagination. I also like the part about good hugs and allowing girls to just cry. That shows compassion and understanding.

I like your start. I think it's really neat you're doing this. Thank you for sharing this, I could also benefit from thinking of what a perfect father would be as I had one, but he was never what one would consider a father.

Love,

Angeli

[desertrosedark.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

~~DesertRose