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I'm feeling very overwhelmed of late and very much like giving up. I feel like nothing I do is good enough for anybody, and no matter what I try, people (read: Cliff and/or Nicholas) are angry with me.

I've done a cut of my friends page. It's not that I changed my mind about whom I like or don't like; I'm just trying to keep things as positive as possible. So if I've cut you, don't get bent out of shape. It's not that I don't like you any more; in most cases, it's that either you don't post any more or you post a lot of negative things that I just can't take at this juncture. Most of my entries are public anyway, so feel free to keep me friended and continue reading and commenting if you like.

I didn't walk today and now it's getting dark and I don't like to walk after dark because I get scared and nobody will go with me except the dog. I really should feel pretty secure with CC's company, because as protective as he is, you'd better come at me with a gun or a moving vehicle if you intend to get past him. Anything less than lethal force is going to get you torn the hell up by one very protective dog.

I've been thinking about my weight a lot today. I've really let it get out of control. I don't even look like myself any more, I've gotten so heavy.

I've never been skinny. I'm tall and big-boned and I have big breasts and wide hips. I've always had to work out to stay reasonably slim and fit within the confines of my statuesque looks. The lightest I've been as an adult was 165 lbs, at which weight I wore a size 10-12 dress, and that's about as skinny as I need to be.


That's me at 165 and Mini-me at age 4 1/2. That dress was actually a size 8, but it was a fairly full-cut 8, although it fit me a bit tightly across the bosom. (And yes, I know, the glasses frames are really dated and not particularly flattering.) It doesn't really show you my figure because of the way Mini-me and I are sitting, but trust me, I still had tittays and junk in the trunk. I have some pictures from that time frame that do show my figure a bit better but they're under the bed in my parents' spare bedroom, where they will probably stay until I go up to my parents' house and use their scanner to scan in 20 or so years' worth of snapshots and other pictures. My measurements then were 36C-27-39. I don't even want to know what they are right now.

That's as skinny as I need to be. I've had people tell me that's too skinny.

I've also been giving some thought to my fashion sense or lack thereof at present. Right now, being disabled and broke, I don't leave the house much so I don't see any point in dressing any special way. I mostly wear t-shirts and either sweats or capris depending on the weather. About the only thing I really care about is that the shirt not clash with the bottoms.

I really like the fashions of the late 1940s into the 1950s. They're designed to show off an adult woman's figure, and even at my slimmest, I definitely have an adult woman's figure.

I'm thinking about, as I lose weight from the walking and stuff, starting to sew my own New Look/just-post-WWII influenced clothes, clothes meant to flatter a figure like mine, rather than trying to force my too-full figure into the skinny-girl, no-boobs, no-butt look that's popular today.

I'll still keep my t-shirts and sweats for hanging around the house or gardening or whatever, but I think I'm going to start researching sewing patterns for those kinds of clothes, for the times when I want to dress up and look good.

My mother and grandmother both have/had great fashion sense. My mother is one of those women who won't go down the driveway to the mailbox without full makeup and her hair done. I just can't fuss over myself that much. I never could, even in periods less depressive than present. And with the depression fight I'm in now, it's hard to make myself comb my hair and brush my teeth every day, much less put on makeup (makeup? When the hell do I wear makeup?) or do anything special with my hair. My grandmother, requiescat in pacem, did not wear much makeup as she came from a generation in which makeup was considered a bit trashy (powder, lipstick, and nail polish was about the extent of it), but she didn't leave the house without her hair done, her face powdered, her lips rosy, her hands manicured, and her shoes and bag matching her outfit. I kid you not, when we cleaned out her house after she died, we found no less than 100 pairs of shoes and 80 handbags in a veritable rainbow of colors and a broad spectrum of styles. (We also found what appears to have been a journal for every year of her life from the age of 18 or so until her death just shy of 78. I hope my aunt still has those. I asked her to keep them for me because I want them but I have no place to put them.)

Anyway, both of them for all appearances could color-coordinate in their sleep.

I've never felt feminine or pretty. I've always thought I was too tall and too big to be feminine, and I've always thought that my exotic (to put it nicely) facial features made me look kind of weird, although I've been told numerous times that I'm far from ugly. I'm not delicate or petite or any of the things that women are supposed to be. I'm as tall as (or in some cases taller than) a lot of men, and it just makes me feel like I'm not a real girl. Real girls are delicate and pretty, and I'm just not.

I guess I sort of hope that developing my own fashions, from designs meant to flatter a fuller figure, will make me feel feminine and/or pretty.
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Well, I'm finally starting to feel better. My throat is still a bit sore and my voice is scratchy and I'm still coughing a little but not as much.

I was sitting on the back steps smoking a cigarette and saw the neighbor girl goofing around with (I assume) her boyfriend. (I assume he's her boyfriend because the goofing around involved some kissing.) I need to rediscover my sense of silliness and fun like that. I can't remember the last time I did something that silly and fun.

The guys want me to cook smothered pork chops and they decided they want greens to go with the pork chops. I don't know how to cook greens because I don't really like cooked greens, so I emailed my mom begging for help.

Well, I guess I'll close off for now.
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I slept late today and I'm afraid I missed Nick on IRC. I hope I didn't. Or, if he was on earlier and gave up on me showing up because I slept late, hopefully he'll log back in.

Talk of cyber sex, TMI alert, so don't read this if you're upset by sex or polyamory. )

Mike emailed me that he isn't feeling well today, so he's not in chat. I miss him but I understand about feeling like shit.

Jen's bridal shower is Saturday. I have to call her and find out where she's registered so I can buy her a present on Friday when Cliff gets paid. (She and Rip are handfasted, and are getting legally married in October, but they call each other "my husband" and "my wife", and they are married in their own religious paths, just not in the eyes of the government.) I just text messaged her to find out where she's registered. She usually returns a text faster than a phone call anyway.
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Dixie is still in the hospital. Not sure when they're going to let her come home. Cliff managed to drop in and visit her briefly yesterday when he had to transport a patient to the same hospital she's in, and Nancy and I visited her earlier in the day and brought her a change of clothes and stuff to do so she's not so bored.

Tessa is visiting me right now; she's loving on everything on the computer desk and wanting me to pet her.

I don't think Cliff slept very well last night; he was tired when I took him to work this morning. I slept like the dead, although I'm still a little sleepy because we only got about six hours of sleep. I might take a nap; I'm not sure.

I really hope my disability comes through in time for me to be able to go to DeryniCon. It will be the first DeryniCon ever, and my first con, and it sounds like it will be a lot of fun. I've already had an offer to share a room with somebody, so that would cut expenses, which would be nice. And I like the lady who offered to share a room with me. She's a good bit older than I am, but she's a very nice lady who loves cats as much as I do. She has a beautiful black cat named Melantha. Melantha is a lap cat; I wish at least one of my girls would curl up on my lap and snuggle but they like to sleep in the windows where they can get some warm sun. Sweetie Pie used to climb up on my chest and snuggle on my shoulder when she was little but after we got her spayed she quit doing that. She still likes to be petted sometimes, but she's not nearly as snuggly as she was when she was little.

I really should quit picking at my bug bites. I made my hand bleed where I've got a healing bug bite that would probably heal a lot faster if I'd just leave it the hell alone. Cliff yells at me when he catches me at it.


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